Overcoming the “Not Feeling It” Mood

on April 26, 2018 |By Amy Bertle | Women Dealing With Loss
The “not feeling it” mood. We all experience it. That feeling where you would rather curl up in a little ball on the couch and count the hours until it’s now socially acceptable for you to go to bed. That feeling.   We must fight the temptation to give into this feeling. Giving in is giving into instant gratification, and instant gratification is one of the leading causes of regret and depression. Instead of giving in today, give in tomorrow. All you have to do today is go through the motions. 
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Giving While Grieving

on January 11, 2018 |By Amy Bertle | Women Dealing With Loss
What makes you happy? The answer to this question is not static. It changes from year-to-year, or even day-to-day, depending on what triumphs or challenges we are facing.   The loss of a loved one may drastically change what makes you happy. Doing the same things you always did with that other person may make things worse and not better. Staying home and watching a movie with your spouse may have been the highlight of your week and now it has turned into a depressing endeavor.
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The Seven Elements of Alimony Payments

on July 27, 2017 |By Amy Bertle | Women Dealing With Loss
One of the last steps of the divorce process is determining how much, if any, alimony needs to be paid from one spouse to the other. It is one of the final steps because how the property itself is divided (marital and/or non marital property) is a major factor in determining spousal support. If alimony is to be paid, there are seven factors that are required to qualify the payments from one spouse to another as spousal support.   Without all seven of these elements, a court would not recognize the transfer of money from one spouse to another as alimony.  
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Dealing With the Aftermath of Divorce

on July 06, 2017 |By Amy Bertle | Women Dealing With Loss
Caution, I am about to use an admittedly cheesy analogy, but if you bear with me, it illustrates the concept of being an active participant in your own financial rescue. You are cruising along in your life when you are blindsided with news that will change your course forever. That news is, you are no longer cruising alongside your husband. He is either leaving against his will (death) or by choice (divorce), but either way, you will no longer have your co-captain and it feels like your ship is sinking. It is time for you to be an active participant in your own rescue. Your ship might be sinking, but that does not mean you are helpless. And the more you help yourself, the more your “rescuers” can help you.
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Planning for Divorce: Top 5 Divorce Financial Tips

on February 20, 2017 |By Jarrod Musick | Women Dealing With Loss
In preparing for the very challenging process of divorce, it's important to have a plan. However, before you can truly get started, you need accurate information from a source you can trust. While many going through a divorce will hire an attorney, this won't provide you with assistance in overcoming the unfamiliar financial hurdles you'll face. It's a common problem for couples going through a divorce. How will belongings be divided? Who will pay the bills? Is your retirement funded? Are things in place for your child's college fund? It's understandable to feel overwhelmed and anxious for what comes next.
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