Caution, I am about to use an admittedly cheesy analogy, but if you bear with me, it illustrates the concept of being an active participant in your own financial rescue. You are cruising along in your life when you are blindsided with news that will change your course forever. That news is, you are no longer cruising alongside your husband. He is either leaving against his will (death) or by choice (divorce), but either way, you will no longer have your co-captain and it feels like your ship is sinking. It is time for you to be an active participant in your own rescue. Your ship might be sinking, but that does not mean you are helpless. And the more you help yourself, the more your “rescuers” can help you.